Quality Time

1. Describe the author’s concept of quality time. What are some ways we can invest quality time with our spouse? With our families?

2. What is focused attention? What is its goal?

3. The author teaches that quality conversation is one of the dialects of quality time. In what ways does quality conversation differ from words of affirmation? How could you enhance your conversations with your spouse?

4. Discuss the author’s five guidelines for engaging quality conversation. Do you consider yourself a good “quality conversation” listener? Can you identify ways you can become a better listener?

5. Dr. Chapman suggests that if we need to learn the language of quality conversation, we should begin by noting the emotions we feel away from home. What are some good examples of events to note during the course of this exercise? What is the point of this exercise?

6. Contrast the “Dead Sea” and “Babbling Brook” personalities. Which are you? Which one describes your spouse? What are keys to making these opposite personalities more compatible?

7. The author suggests several quality activities. Discuss your favorite. Can you suggest other quality activities in which you and your spouse can engage?