Keeping the Love Tank Full

1. How would you define love? Given your exposure to Dr. Chapman’s concept of five love languages, might your definition have room for additional thought and development?

a. Can love be one sided?

b. If so, how long can that be sustained?

2. What fuels our need for love? Why is it an ongoing need?

a. What are specific “love” actions that we need to be shown in order to feel loved?

b. Do we receive fuel from languages other than our primary one?

3. Discuss the “love tank” metaphor the author describes.  How often do you focus on your spouse’s love tank? How successful have you been keeping it filled?

a. How often do you focus on your own love tank?

b. Do your love expectations have more to do with your own needs or those of your spouse?

4. Are you alert to signs that your spouse might be crying out for love? Are you gauging the possibility that his or her emotional love tank could be running on “empty”?

a. Do you hit parts of the road in marriage where the next gas station is 100 miles ahead?

b. What are some of the things that can cause one to run on fumes?  What are the potential hazards of running on fumes?

5. As you seek to grow in your marital relationship, what are some of the benefits of keeping your spouse’s emotional love tank at the proper level?

a. Since love is an action, what purposeful steps can we take to ensure our spouse’s tank remains full?

b. If we are empty ourselves, how can we fill our own tank in order to fill our spouse’s?